A woman shared how she hooked up with a man that she met on Tinder and when she woke up in the middle of the night and saw him touching himself and moaning in the living room.
Here is the story
A man I met on Tinder invited me out on a date on Tuesday. I was pleasantly surprised by the flow of our conversation; we talked about every possible topic on earth, understood each other’s jokes, and it felt like we had known each other for years. We shared a kiss that night, and both went home.
On Friday, he reached out to see if I was available to hang out again. I’ve rarely hung out with a new person this much, this soon, but I was really looking forward to it. Why not?!
Long story short, he came over for food and one thing led to another. We got intimate but it was quite bad. I usually try not to think about that too much because I understand that it takes time to get used to someone’s body and how it moves. I figured we could try one more time at a later date, and that I would then be able to assess. We are cuddling our way to sleep.
In the middle of the night, I wake up and notice he is not in bed with me. I thought he may have gone to the sofa (my room can get a little hot), and wanted to take a quick peek to make sure he was okay. As I walked to the door, I froze because I could hear him moaning. And it was growing louder and louder.
Long story short, he spent the whole night touching himself on my couch (multiple times) and moaning audibly, thinking I was asleep even though that makes NO sense and the door was WIDE open. Not only that, but as I stood there in horror, I could also hear him fart through the whole thing.
I quietly made my way back to bed and just laid there, listening to this go all night, without a SINGLE trip to the bathroom. At around 5:25, I was so over it that I set an alarm on my phone to pretend I was getting up. When he heard it, he fell silent. I gave it a minute, then left my room to “grab some water.” I was mortified to see he had used one of my favourite couch throws to cover himself and pretend he was asleep, meaning it probably has some of his man juice on it.
I spent the hours of 5:30-8:30 somewhat pretending to be awake or asleep, and as soon as the sun came up, I pretended I had some work stuff to do and asked him to leave.
I feel extremely grossed out. I am going to wash all of my couch cushion covers. I felt the need to deep clean my bathroom before taking a shower. I’m washing all of my sheets. And may throw out my throw. I don’t know why, but I feel deeply violated by this.
How should I go about telling him that this upset me? Or should I simply ghost him? I just want to be sure he doesn’t put anyone else through this ever again.