I miss having my parents more than I realised
My mum died when I was 22 and my dad died on Sunday, with me now being age 30.
I’ve been having chest pains for a couple of weeks and finally went to a&e today/yesterday. After a 6 hour wait I’d had bloods taken and an ECG and got to see a doctor (I’m fine btw, turns out it’s just pleurisy, but at the time I genuinely felt like I was about to die).
Embarrassing as it is, I had to take a couple of breaks outside the ER just to go cry about how much I wanted my parents there.
I know my dads death was recent, but I can’t stop feeling pathetic for wanting my mum and dad at this age. I don’t know how to be a proper adult without them, I’ve spent years and thousands in therapy to try and move past my grief but it just doesn’t work.
It’s it like I even had a good relationship with either of them, but I just can’t fill the hole they’ve left in my heart.
Does anyone have any advice beyond therapy/meds/talking to others?
Netizens’ comments
- I’m sorry, that’s so much to have to deal with at such a young age. There’s nothing wrong with or abnormal about wanting your parents in that situation and you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it.
There’s nothing I can say or suggest to make the pain go away. The only thing that really helps is time. You won’t forget them but it will get easier. Never easy – but easier. - There’s another kind of family that can come into your life, it’s those thwt you choose to be family with. It creeps up on you over time but then you realise how your life is richer with these people.
They never truely replace what you’ve lost, but it helps fill the void a little.