I was completely ignored and talked over by a male server while ordering food
my boyfriend lost his job so I’ve been paying for the majority of our recent dates, which is completely fine by me because my work is going well.
I had a craving for *restaurant name withheld* and we decided to go there. We walk up to the counter, the man behind the counter asks my boyfriend if we’re ready and I said “I know what I want, he’s never been” the guy cuts me off at the last word (never looking at me or acknowledging me) and says to my boyfriend “take as much time as you need!”.
So he finally decides and my bf tells me to go first, I start to order and the server is looking at my bf instead of me.
I tell him what I want and he completely ignores me. An awkward moment goes by and my bf nervously repeats what I said and then the server puts it in the system.
He then orders his food as I pull out my card and stand there holding it waiting for the total. He looks at me holding the card, faces my bf again and says the total.
I put the card in and pay. At this point I’m pretty annoyed. My bf got a drink that’s behind the counter, and I got a fountain drink that is self serve.
Someone else fills up his drink and puts it in the counter. Another moment passes and I ask if I can have my cup. Server made an annoyed face and handed my cup to my bf, we were also on different sides of the register so he made the choice to grab the cup from my side, then move his hand across the register and hand it to him.
Micro-aggressions aside, I was paying for the meal. He was waiting for my bf, (who had never been) to order for me and know the total. It’s been really grinding my gears lately.