A woman shared how she is in her 30s but her mother is still controlling her life, including choosing what she buys and wears, following her around when he’s outside, even to her job interview.
Here is the story
Does any of you have helicopter parent? I am in my early 30s and an only child. Till now, my mom is still overprotective. Some examples like:
– Back when I was in secondary school/poly days, she will follow/hide and observe us when I went out with my friends. Everyone was freaked out – due to that, I have no friends.
– When having a job interview after grad – she will follow me to my office and waited for my interview to end – which makes me feel uncomfortable.
– Fetching me from work every day, make me lie to my colleague that she works nearby so I won’t feel ashamed. I kinda feel left out when they went out for dinner and I can’t join them. And control on what I can buy/wear
Till now, whenever I left the house, she will follow. I was only allowed to have my house key when i was 26. I have talked about this(overprotective way) to her and she will get mad and ask me to stop being concerned about what people think/view on it. I still love her, and I don’t want to make things worst.
It’s driving me crazy soon, what should I do? Is there any support group or counseling on that?
p.s I can’t move out of the house.
Netizen’s comments
- U really need to sit down with her n tell her nicely that you are already an adult to be making ur own decisions in life. If she dont leave u to do ur things, then its very hard for u to be in control of ur own life. She really needs to understand that u need some space including follow u around. Yeah, find her some new hobbies to keep her occupied.