Lent my boyfriend total of $20,000
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We’ve been together for almost 5 years and throughout the 5 years I lent him a total cost of about $20,000. Is that normal?
I tried to help because he was in school to pursue a private degree, which he finished this year.
He gets mad when I ask for $1,000 bucks a month since he owes me. He only lent me a totally of $1,500 so far. And it’s completely unfair. I feel really stupid and now I’m in financial debt.
Netizens’ comments
- Do you have any proof you LENT him the money? Meaning you didn’t gift it to him? Do you keep any records on all the money you lent him? He didn’t lent you $1500. He repaid the funds to you. Might be worth having a consultation with a lawyer to see whether you can sue him.
- It’s okay to lend money to your SO, especially if it’s to push them over the line to achieve something important.
It stops being okay when said SO tries to dodge the responsibility, can’t discuss the debt like an adult and/or thinks it’s no longer a debt just because you’re together.
You need to be assertive on this. You’re in debt because you helped him enormously and he doesn’t seem to be concerned about this at all. - Sorry to say but I dont think you’ll ever get it back.⁰
- y’all lending that kinda money to a man that hasn’t married you??? whew chile
- That smells like some tinder swindler kinda thing going on my friend. You need to solve this. I won’t advise anything harsh and sudden right now because we know nothing about the relationship you guys have, but in a subtle manner, it’s about time you start collecting evidence that you lent him the money, if this ever does go south and denies returning the cash to you, that’s when you’ll get the proofs out. Provided, you don’t have any evidence right now bcz you guys are in a relationship.