I (19f) lost my baby earlier this year. My husband (27m) is fine waiting to try again. My mom (45f) is pressuring me to start right now.
Earlier this year I lost my baby eight months into the pregnancy and it was really, really tough. Coming home from the hospital without my baby was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
All I wanted to to way lay down in her nursery and cry. My husband was so amazing. He would hold me for hours while I cried, make sure I ate, helped me shower, got me dressed.
He told me that we can try again when and if I’m ready again. I know he wants more but I know he won’t get mad if I tell him that I don’t want to try again (but I think I do, I’m just not sure when).
My mom on the other hand thinks just because I got medically cleared I should be trying again, because she says it’s going to be a lot harder to get pregnant this time.
She also said having another baby will help me heal emotionally, and she says that’s why I’m still having a hard time, and that I might not have as long as I think I do to have kids (she had to have a hysterectomy in her early 30s).
Last night she sent me a list of things that I should be doing. It said stuff like not to drink cold beverages to promote a warm womb and not to eat things that were too spicy.
She said she was going to ‘make sure I was doing these things to make sure nothing else happens to another one of her grandchildren’. My husband got really mad when I told him she said that and now he wants to cut her off completely.
I just feel bad cutting her off because she’s my mom and I know she doesn’t realize how she’s coming off. And I think she just wants to help in her own way.