WOMAN MARRIED WITH KID BUT MISS HER EX FROM 10 YEARS AGO, “IS IT APPROPRIATE TO CONTACT HIM”

Is it ever appropriate to get in touch with an ex again?

My ex and I have been broken up for 10 yrs and we’ve got our own lives now. I’m happily married with 1 child and I assume he’s happy too.

Our rs wasn’t a good one, there was alot of lying and I couldn’t get over the pain. In turn, i became toxic too. I couldn’t forgive him for what he did but we ended it amicably.

I carried on with life but hated him for a few years. I don’t know if I got proper closure then but now, when I think about what happened, I don’t get angry anymore.

On some level, I laugh at it and I’m glad it happened. I’m glad he lied and hurt me because it taught me many life lessons that I’ve brought into my marriage.

It showed me exactly what I didn’t want and now I’m in an incredible marriage because of these lessons.

Now I recently stumbled upon his Facebook and it got me wondering if I should message him to catch up on life. I’d like to thank him for the rs and not only that, but I’d also like to apologise to him, for being toxic as well.

Our rs wasn’t meant to be forever, but it was what I needed at that time and I’m forever grateful for it.

So, is it appropriate for me to contact my ex again? I will also let my husband know about this but I just want to get feel of what what most people think.

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t meet him to show off or spite him like “oh thank u for showing me what I don’t want so my marriage is incredible now”. That will be super uncalled for and unnecessary for something 10 years ago. I don’t think there’s a need to meet.
2. Don’t play with fire. Also don’t put your husband in a difficult position. He may agree out of concern that you may get angry. Just forget your past episode and move on. You have nothing to gain by re-establishing the contact. Looks like you still have feeling for him.
3. For what? If it’s genuine gratitude, you don’t have to reach out to him. If you truly think your experience with him has helped you. There’s no need to reach out. What you want is validation from him. Please identify your motives.