Me and my hub have been married for 11 years and had 2 children. When we were dating back then, as far as I remember he had a bit of temper and dirty habits of putting hands into his pants to adjust. But I still marry him thinking he will change.
Our “bede time” right from the beginning was just so-so. After our 1st kid, he didnt have “exercise” with me for a long time. Whenever I bring it up, he said it is not important. During this period, I did check whether he stray but what I know of there isnt. So slowly I also become not interested and focus on kids.
All these years, his temper worsen and will yell at me or children over small trivia things. Once, he hovered over her head and when she got excited and jumped up hitting his chin , he let go off my kid on steps totally and she fell hitting her head. There were too many other incidents like these as kids been kids so he is a bit violent. When he make mistakes like Are we going out on Sat? He replied Yes and the next moment he replied No. So then we will ask him so Yes or No and he will flared up yelling just a mistake!!! When he has forgot to boil water for kids bottles and my daughter asked for hot water he will lament ‘.No big deal’. All our friends do not know he is like this as he act very well in front of them.
I had enough of him. I brought up the topic of divorce few times and he just brushed off become softer and said will change.
But I know he wouldn’t. Now advise on this case, if I go ahead and divorce him. What are the ‘laws’ on maintanance of kids as I am not working? I am a sahm. And he has a good career earning 5figures. What are the steps should I take now to ensure I will have both kids and half of the house?
And how to show proof of his temper when he only do it to us at home or when we are out? Thank you.