Really inexperienced in dating, i need some advices from my sgeans please.
To start off, i have never been in a relationship all my life. Only situationships if that’s what you’ll call them. I’ll talk to guys for 3-4 months and then things just don’t work out.
Both myself and the guy have called the shots to end things. I’ve noticed that texting and updating them about my day is like a chore at first.
i hate the small talks to keep conversations going. UNLESS it is something that interest me. is it normal to feel this way? am i being selfish? or does it mean i just do not like the guy enough to share about my life?
i generally am a quiet person. rarely text any of my friends unless they do text me first. i guess i love to keep to myself unless i’m hanging around people i’m comfortable with then i could be loud.
At this rate, i’ve thought of getting into an arranged marriage in the future
Netizens’ comments
- Maybe you are just better off single?
- I used to be like you, then I met someone that I enjoyed doing all these to.
- Op, I’ve been married more than 20 years. What do you think our conversations are about? Deep philosophical stuff? Hell no, it’s boring mundane day to day updates and thoughts. Gossiping about our friends and work. It’s not so much the content but rather the emotional connection between partners and being part of each others lives.
- No. Before I met my husband, I was also not into small talks with the guys that I met/dated. Only when I met my husband, small talks didn’t seem so bad. It was getting to know the person and finding out what common interest we have. I think it is how attracted you and the other person are with each other and the level of chemistry you have to kind of endure the small talks. Now being married, we still ask questions like “How was your day?” and “what did you have for lunch?”. It may seems lame, but questions like these are what makes your partner feel loved and that you are still interested in what is going on in their lives no matter how mundane it is.
Not saying that same thing will happen to you. Probably you will meet somebody who are not into small talks like you and understand relationships the same way you do. Whatever the case, don’t think that you are weird. Just think that you probably don’t vibe with the people that you are in situationship in.