My gf thinks there is a standard rate for ang pows
My girlfriend thinks there is a standard rate for CNY ang pows. Just like for wedding ang pows. She went my house for CNY visiting (in JB, brought along 2 cans of abalone) and received an ang pow from my mum, and it contains 10 dollars(my siblings, myself, their spouses and grandkids all got 10 dollars in their ang pows). And she feels slighted by it because 10 dollars is the lowest she got among all the ang pows she got from her Singaporean relatives. And she expects the notes to be new notes instead of used note.
My opinion is CNY ang pow is just a gesture and the amount don’t really matter. I was trying to defend my parents saying probably got to do with the job and income my parents had(now they are retired), so that’s what they think is “good enough”. But my gf thinks I’m brushing aside her feelings and being defensive of my parents.
And then she asked me back, how much will I pack for my parents when if I give them one for CNY. I said ok maybe RM100. She said “why not 10 dollars? Or RM50? Because you think it’s not appropriate right?”. But I thought the amount I gave is just based on what’s comfortable for me.
It’s a bit frustrating. What are your opinion, and how can I let her see my point?
And can you also state your gender when you comment, so I can see whether men and women thinks differently.
Netizens’ comments
- no offence, but your girlfriend sounds insufferable.
- Do not upgrade to wife.
- Better yet, upgrade her to stranger.
- Let’s just hope it’s ex-girlfriend by now.
- Better yet, upgrade her to stranger.
- Do not upgrade to wife.