A 33-year-old woman shared how she has been married to her husband for 3 years but is unhappy.
She reasoned that it was because her S life is dull and she feels lonely.
She says that they have S on average, once every two months.
She feels that her husband has zero interest in her and she had requested to split up.
Here is the story:
“I’m a 33 yo lady married to my husband for 3 years and dated for 10 years.
To him, we are having mostly happy, friendly, and supportive relationship.
To me, I am not happy with the dull S life, in average once in 2 months. While the relationship seems fine but I feel extremely lonely, rejected, angry, and helpless, especially I have no explanation for why this is going on.
I have talked to him about this multiple times, telling him my feeling and wanting to understand his too. He always just simply brush off with lame excuses e.g. he forgot.
After several attempts of discussions, I have resigned myself to the fact that he has zero interest in me. So, I requested to split up a few times, he always reject. I don’t understand why is he so mean for dragging me down like that. Why can’t we just move on. I am stuck I don’t enjoy my marriage life.
If I am to take the chance, I have to try to accept that I will always be unfulfilled, feeling rejected by his lack of affection.”
How to save a marriage
The first step to salvaging a marriage is to communicate with your partner. You and your partner need to be honest and open with each other about what is causing the strain. You need to find out why things have gone wrong, and then come up with a plan to fix it.
The next step is to be understanding. It is important to remember that everyone has their own perspective and feelings. You and your partner should be willing to listen to each other and show understanding and respect. This kind of communication is key to salvaging a marriage.
The third step is to be willing to compromise. There will be times when it is necessary to compromise in order to move forward. This can be difficult, but it is necessary in order for the marriage to be salvaged.
The fourth step is to focus on the positive. It can be easy to focus on the negative in a marriage, but it is important to focus on the positive as well. Spend more time focusing on the things that make you both happy and the things that you both enjoy doing together.
Finally, take time for each other. Make sure that you are taking time to spend quality time together. This can be anything from going out on a date or just having a night in and watching movies. This will help to build intimacy and connection.
These are just a few tips that can help to salvage a marriage. It may not be easy, but with patience, understanding and communication, it is possible to save a marriage.
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