He (M37) threw my clothes at me (F36) and told me to leave in the middle of f-ng after I said I needed him to wear a condom.
This guy (M37) and I (F36) have been causally dating for around 2.5 months. We are casual and not looking for anything serious.
We do go out and also started sleeping with each other about a month into our situation. We both agree we like each other’s company more than the physicality, but he’s been clear it is his top priority.
We have used a condom the few times we’ve been intimate and he has started to push back against it. I told him if we aren’t exclusive then I prefer to just be safe and he took that as I’m implying he’s not clean etc.
The last time we did it, the condom broke and he said that he was NOT putting another one on. I said yes you are or I’m leaving and he threw my clothes at me and told me to go.
I was upset of course and we talked a little bit after but he said he didn’t want to talk to me anymore and I was too inexperienced for his needs.
He felt like I was making things “forced”. He said although he likes me as a person and enjoys our time, he’d rather spend his time with someone he feels more compatible in bed with.
This was new to me since he always said he’s enjoyed it up until now. I know this is a bad situation but has anyone dealt with similar?
Netizens’ comments
- In reality, you’re not inexperienced, you’re confident and know the risks and he wants someone who’s naive and will let him f without a condom. Flee.
- Yeah…. He did you a favor kicking you out when you insisted on a condom. and I’ve been here. We were compatible until he thought he could convince me to do it without protection… we weren’t exclusive and I also didn’t want to deal with a pregnancy. Suddenly he wasn’t “feeling it”. And I never heard from him again. Boy, bye.
- I’m a guy and this is terrible behaviour on his part. It’s perfectly ok that you want to use a condom because you’re more at risk of STDs or pregnancy. I would recommend getting rid of this guy and don’t take part in Fwb.