MIL keeps verbally stressing helper
I am living with my mil and we have a helper who has been with us for the past 2years 10 months…
she’s going back soon. I feel very guilty towards my helper. Though my mil did not abuse my helper physically but my mil is always nagging at her. I think it is causing me and my helper to have mental stress. Examples:
1) Saying she didn’t clean well, didn’t do this, doing things v slowly, cooking awful. On a daily basis.
2) mil don’t allow my helper to take food from the fridge without asking her. So my helper does not dare to take things to cook her own lunch.
3) mil is always getting instant noodles and chicken Franks for my helper. She can eat that 4 to 5 times a week. My mil is health conscious worried about getting cancer, she doesn’t even eat these processed food yet she give my helper eat such food all the time. I am really worried my helper will fall sick in future… she’s still so young and have a life ahead of her, I really don’t want to see her getting sick ..
My helper is already very tolerant. I really salute her for being able to keep her cool mostly despite her young age. She doesn’t argue back as she probably know is futile..mil won’t listen. She’s only in her early 20s.
For me, I have zero power in the family. I am also subject to my mil’s nagging and I feel v guilty and helpless for not being able to protect and help my helper.. I myself also can’t buy things to put in the fridge. I always have this constant guilt that I should be brave and stand up for myself and her but I am afraid that I will make things difficult for my husband. I find myself loserish and timid.