Boyfriend doesn’t like eating me out.
I (f20) have been with my boyfriend (21m) for 5 years. We have a great relationship overall except for when it comes to physical intimacy.
I’ve been finding myself resenting him for never eating me out and also jealous of other women who talk about their partners who love to go down on them.
He claims it’s because he’s sensitive to smell and won’t unless I’m fresh out the shower. Thing is, even when I’ve showered he still won’t do it.
I’ve asked him to do it but he never is excited about it (and tbh does it badly so he can get it over with imo) I LOVE giving head and making him feel good, even if he’s worked all day.
It makes me upset that that feeling isn’t reciprocated, like my pleasure doesn’t also excite him. I feel like he’s such a loser for saying it’s the “smell” that makes him not want to even though he reassures me it’s normal and natural he just doesn’t like it.
Idk just a rant, any other people out there have a partner like this? I feel like I’m the only one.
Netizens’ comments
- You two are simply not compatible in bed. It’s completely okay for him to not like to go down on you, it’s also completely okay for you to want someone who does. If this is as serious as you think it is to you, which if it is that’s completely fair, then simply break it off with him and find someone who does.
- You didn’t ask for advice, but I’m going to offer some… you are far far too young to be frustrated in bed with a long term partner, there is plenty of time for that when you are older and married. Find a partner that makes your satisfaction in bed a priority.
- Oral isn’t for everyone. I’m kind of ambivalent on it myself. So is my wife. So that works out great for us lol. If you’re not compatible with your partner you should probably exit the relationship.
- I just want you to know, it’s not your smell. It’s incompatibility. Scent is a lot to do with how we experience our partners. If he doesn’t like yours, I assure you there is someone out there who will. And the fact that when he does do it it’s bad? Time to move on.