to all singaporeans, how do you know if you are unattractive?
or when did you realise you are unattractive?
I’ve never once thought that i was pretty/ugly and believed that i’m truly average. Until i realised I might be unattractive bordering ugly as i’ve never been approach/hit on by anyone despite everyone saying how girls get hit on a lot.
i’ve heard my friends sharing about being approached but that has never happened to me before. I think it might not be personality either as i don’t really have problems making friends.
this has unfortunately affected my confidence a lot, and is even starting to even affect me making new friends as my self esteem is being hit hard and i feel nervous approaching others thinking that they would not want to me associated or seen with me.
i realised that we always stay as friends and i am always the one taking initiative to keep convos going on with guys? while they don’t seem to put in as much efforts 🙁 while my friends are constantly sharing how they received paragraphs and quick replies from guys around them.
i’m still in uni so everyone tells me not to worry but i’m truly worried i’ll die alone, though i really try to put myself out there and let nature takes it course but i can’t help but feel like something is wrong with me 🙁
how do you guys know if you are unattractive? how do you work on it? I have tried dressing better etc but it does not seem to work. on the thinner side either so i think it might just be my face…
Netizens’ comments
- When I realise the girls who approached me are only those insurance agents at the MRT stations
- When even the caipng auntie can’t bring herself to call you 帅哥/美女…
- One time I was out drinking with a friend (we’re both girls) and this drunk dude randomly came to our table, sat down and tried to chat my friend up. He kept asking her questions in his stupor and when I tried to stop him he told me in the face to stop getting in his way and proceeded to continue. I didn’t really mind since I did think my friend was the pretty and good-looking kind but yeah guys defo don’t see or treat me as a woman cos I buibui lol (which is understandable)
- I’ve been on both sides of the fence so I think I can give my input. Growing up, I think I was an ugly ducking. I constantly have scabs on my legs because I would scratch them (they were itchy) and school made it worse cos there’s no way I could hide them, (in school we had to wear skirts). Also, to add on I wore those dark rim glasses . Back then if you’re four eyes, you’re just plain nerdy and nobody would look at you twice.
I am now in my early 30s (single now though) . But I no longer have the “I am ugly stigma”. I am told constantly that I’m beautiful and attractive. I think as you get older, you will start to learn more about yourself so you will know how to love and take care of yourself. For me, personally I am told numerous times by people that I have great skin, hair and beautiful eyes. So I love to maximise physical features that enhances my beauty.
It’s good to know that you’re working on dressing better. I believe a sense of style has helped me a lot personally. Knowing your body shape and what colors works for you will do wonders. Don’t worry too much about not finding a bf now or not having anyone that fancies you now. Get to know as many people as possible , I’m sure someone will find you interesting and attractive.