My (26F) husband (31M) is back to talking to his ex because I refused to quit my job
I posted last week because my husband wants me to quit my job at a company that I’ve worked at for 5 years.
This all started because I told him that my ex just took a position at the same company and will be working in a different department, meaning we wouldn’t be working together much.
He told me he wants me to quit and it’s non negotiable. He says he just doesn’t feel comfortable with the situation because although he trusts me, he doesn’t trust my ex.
Because I’ve worked hard to get to the position I have now, I told my husband that I can’t quit my job right now but will make sure to stay professional towards my ex.
Since I told him that, he’s been distant. He stayed out late this weekend and when I asked where he was, he said he doesn’t need to tell me since we’ve decided not to care about each other’s opinion.
He’s been constantly on his phone and tonight I finally asked him who he’s texting and he said his ex. I asked him why since it was my understanding that they haven’t talked in years.
He said if I can work with my ex, he has the right to talk to his ex.
I’m so upset that I had to leave to calm myself down. I’m not sure what I want to do when I get home. I don’t understand why this is turning into such a big deal.
I want to be the bigger person but for him to go back to talking to his ex when he knows it upsets me … I’m just hurt honestly. Any advice?