It’s weird thinking I’ll never be a mom
Given the state of the world, global warming, cost of living, salaries not keeping up with the cost of living, we’ve made the decision to not have kids. I think it’s our final decision, but of course, nothing is ever really final.
I think this is the right choice. Our generation is unsure if we will have retirement benefits, never mind the generations that follow us.
I don’t want my kids to suffer. Even if they’re unborn. And if we have a daughter, her rights are being stripped from her before she’s even born.
I feel comfortable with this choice. I don’t need kids to be happy. But it’s weird still feeling like I’m mourning the loss of not being a parent, even though it’s my choice.
And I feel selfish and privileged to be able to say that, because I know that there are countless people out there whom this decision is made for them. Anyway. That’s all.
Netizens’ comments
- A door closing is sad, even if you’re the one closing it. You shouldn’t feel guilty for your grief, other people having it worse does not mean you have no right to mourn the loss of something you probably spent a long time assuming was your future.
- I’ve got a disease that has made me go back and forth about whether it would be responsible to have children. I have been told by my family that I am being selfish as they see women in wheelchairs having children and that I should just do it. My disease requires me to be on medication to keep myself functioning and I would have to be off it during the entire pregnancy. This freaks me out. Not to mention I can’t imagine how I would function being pregnant when my inners are already so swollen that they will be moved and pulled around. Just the thought of worse pain makes me anxious.
- The decision was made for me.
I can’t speak for all women like me but I can speak about me. You don’t need to feel like you’re being selfish or feel guilty about making the decision rather than having the decision made for you.
I’m happy you got to sit and have the conversation instead of having an option taken away. Please don’t carry guilt for that.