I married the “nice guy” and I’m now regretting it…
I’ve been my married to my now husband for nearly 10 years and I cannot ask for a nicer man. He cares for me emotionally, calls/text me every day to say how much he loves and appreciates me.
He is the typical nice guy who treats all women “as they deserve”. And he is the first “nice guy” I’ve dated who is emotionally available and genuinely caring.
However ever since the since the beginning we are “okay” in bed. I have always been adventurous in the bedroom and love a good time. However over the years my drive has increased and his as pretty much become non-existent.
We have spoken about this multiple times over the years and nothing we discuss has actually made a difference. Talking about threesomes (his fantasy) however when I actually set these dates up with a other girl he changes his mind and says no he just isn’t in the mood.
I’ve asked if he is still attracted to me (178cm and only 62kg) and he says yes everytime. I’ve asked if he would be interested in just foreplay to get the mood going and says no he feels like he is disrespecting me if I suck him off.
When we do sleep together it’s very vanilla missionary that lasts maybe 10 minutes then he tells me “how amazing it was and how much he loves our connection”.
I’m getting to the point were I am starting to fantasise about sexual encounters with strangers and feeling like I settled. Did I make a mistake or is this something that can be changed? Is this normal?
Netizens’ comments
- That has nothing to do with being nice
- Same situation here, but I just satisfy my own needs 🙂 My fiancé is amazing and I will never leave him just because of it. We talk about it sometimes, and he just says he is not that adventurous. It’s okay, because nobody is perfect.
- Why is “nice guy” in quotes if he’s actually a nice guy? Lol. I assumed this was one of those dudes who thinks he’s a nice guy but is actually not nice at all. That’s typically what is meant by “nice guy™”.