I ended it with a guy and had to tell him 100+ times throughout the night it’s my choice if I don’t want to date him.
He is now blocked because he kept trying to justify himself as a person and why he is a perfectly nice guy.
It doesn’t matter if we’ve been dating one month or 5 years, a woman has a right to leave if things are not suited to her. But dating has been hard because while I’m okay with a casual relationship, there are some guys who get so serious so quick to the point where they won’t take no for an answer .
I guarantee if I wasn’t so quick to block that guy he’d have begged for at least a few more days, despite me literally telling him I don’t like him as a person, don’t like his personality and that he is an asshole.
Just a little vent, as I also have experience with lots of unwarranted male attention (cat calling, stalking, harassment and assault to name a few) and I hate that just because I let a guy into my life for a bit he thinks he’s entitled to stay there forever even when we don’t click or he’s treated me less than favourably. Women don’t owe men anything just like they don’t owe us anything.
Hell, nobody owes anybody anything while dating unless you agreed to deeply commit to each other or get married. Even then, someone is allowed to leave if the situation doesn’t suit them any longer. This guy made me feel guilty for not being understanding / giving more chances / numerous reasons when I just didn’t want to drag out a dating situation I don’t be in anymore.
It’s hard to date because I’m tired of being begged, harassed and even have guys plead that they can change themselves for me (which I know is a trap). I just want to feel ok saying no and moving on, not being made to feel like shit for it 8 times out of 10.
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