But my husband is a gem. I’m glad we got married and have a kid despite the fights we had in early days of living together. But we learnt to compromise.
And yes, we split 50:50 for almost everything except for the small stuff, then we just treat each other most of the time.
Before we have a kid, we split most of the chores. We also hired a part time cleaner. It was very easy and nice to live with each other. We both have certain pet peeves (like i cannot stand dirty laundry waiting, while he cant stand dirty dishes in the sink) – so we both try to close one eye when it comes to these things. Compromise.
He appreciates me even more now that we have a kid. I am currently 4months postpartum. First two weeks after I gave birth he helped me shower and wore my clothes for me daily, helped me walk when i need help, and on top of that took care of my baby fully except when I breastfeed.
Now he also does most of the household chores. I only wash laundry (load in washing machine and run it). He hangs laundry, folds it. He also does most of the washing of bottles and accessories for our kid. We order food in most of the time too and sometimes he even cooks for me a proper meal.. katsudon, seafood tom yum. I don’t even cook ever since i got pregnant. He also does most of the night feeds for my baby, even when he has work the next day. He has not had any time to play his games although he has been buying games for himself. But he never complains.
I can go on and on about why my husband is awesome. But all this is not built from nothing, we had a lot of talks and expectations early before we got married. We still have fights, it is not all perfect of course.
Anyway, I want to tell you not to blame the whole male population. It is you who made a bad decision in choosing your husband.
Plus, if you expect a lot from your partner, then you better have a lot to offer as well.
On a more serious note, you should leave the marriage if you really feel that way about your husband. Noone wants to be married to a partner who thinks so poorly of them. It will be for your own good, and his as well. If you still want to salvage your marriage, perhaps have a good talk with him or go for marriage counselling.