Am I wrong for expecting my fiancé to stop making me pay for 50% of the bills?
I (female, 27) live with my fiancé (male, 28) and I have two kids. I work 5 hours a day, 5 days a week. He works 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. My MONTHLY income is equivalent to one of his 2-week salary.
We roughly spilt our bills 50/50. at the end of the month, I’m usually almost negative in my account and he keeps almost $1000 in his account.
I’ve expressed interest in getting a full-time job or even a part-time nightly job to make up for the deficit in my income. we’ve discussed and agreed that it’s not feasible for me to work more hours until our youngest starts kindergarten because with my hours I’m able to pick up my daughter after school to avoid daycare costs, I can run errands and have dinner made etc.
My question is, I recently mentioned that I don’t think it’s fair that we split bills 50/50, I think we should split them according to income. My fiancé disagrees.
Am I wrong?
Here are what netizens think:
- I have my own car payment. Her car is paid off. I have ~$8k in student loans I am still paying off, she has none. When we go out to dinner (it’s not that often, we both cook very well), we generally just split it between us, or one of us will pick up the tab for the hell of it. Not a big deal.
- Id be paying off both our loans, not just mine. Even though her loans would be costing me money, from a self centered stand point, I feel like redistributing our expenses would ultimately work better in terms of debt.
- I give all my money to my wife and let her sort it out.
- Trust is so important. I know our bills get paid. If we can’t afford to splurge, my wife let’s me know.