WOMAN SAYS SHE SCARE MEN AWAY BECAUSE SHE IS DESPERATE TO GET MARRIED

Does it scare men that a woman is looking to marry

I have been using dating apps on and off for about 10 years. I started because I was envious of my friends who had partners that would fetch them from school. However, I hardly got matched on those apps.

Age 30s

Now that I’m reaching 30 and want to settle down with someone I wonder if it would scare men off if I’m honest about wanting to date to marry.

It is ironic though cause I feel that using apps is frivolous and fake. As much as I tell myself looks do not matter. I would still try to match with people who have decent-looking photos. It is hard to tell someone by their character without meeting up for a meal and eventually going on dates.

But even after 10 years I’m still not getting any matches.

I do like going to plays and events on certain causes so I usually sign up for that but I dun really get to meet other like-minded people there maybe cause I focus more on the objective of the event rather than meeting new people and I dun make the first move as I do not want to be seen as desperate.

Here are what netizens think:

• Start by loving yourself and doing activities you enjoy. When you are happy with yourself and life, the right person will come along. Don’t you always notice that we tend to find things when we are least expecting to find them? Getting frantic about not being able to settle down would only put yourself in a scarcity and desperate mindset. Work on yourself and your mentality first. Go out, meet people without having any expectations. You might even gain a few great friends throughout this journey

• It does, I won’t say 100%, but 90% of man are just looking to date rather than marriage. A man can date you for 10 years but refuse to marry you, and yet another man can ask discuss of marriage at the beginning of rs. It really depends on what the man is looking for, if he’s looking for a play date, then there’s no point for you to waste time on him. Finding a like-minded person is extremely important. Not only it will save you time on building bond and trust, you guys are moving towards the same direction. You guys holding the same value and goals. It’s better to find the right one than just finding anyone.

• Go to a real match makers and look for someone who is equally serious. They are match better than AI as all the candidate are vetted by the agency