Why have kids when you are already struggling?
I’m not criticizing anyone who has kids or will have kids in poverty and I’m not trying to start a eugenics conversation, but I do notice the correlation between poverty and how many kids one has.
It’s not always the case, but I did see it growing up and I’m seeing it now, people having kids they simple cannot afford to.
My brothers and I were so traumatized by poverty growing up that none of us have kids and we’re barely making it.
Meanwhile my cousins are all having kids and are living with their parents and are barely making it! It honestly just seems insane to me that their legit repeating the same cycle we went through growing. Why do that to yourself or your child?
My cousin asking me for money or even a coworker asking for money for groceries, which I gave because they both have babies and kids are my weakness, but it just doesn’t make sense to me in the long run.
There are days where I can barely afford myself and I couldn’t imagine adding an expense of a child to this equation.
Why do this to yourself when you’re already struggling? Serious question. Not trying to offend anyone
Netizens’ comments
- Having a baby is one of the only markers of adulthood some of these people will ever reach or see as achievable.
- I don’t have kids myself, but that’s how most people I know who knew they couldn’t afford kids yet had them anyway seemed to end up with their kids. They weren’t planned/wanted.
- Ill let you in on a little secret…. most kids are mistakes. Adults just wont tell you that but they can still love you.
- I’ll bite. I was dirt poor when we had our daughter. She was unplanned, my birth control failed and my now husband had low fertility due to a injury when he was young. In a way it was take the pregnancy then or risk never having one as the financial cost of fertility assistance is prohibitive.
she just turned 10 yesterday and it’s due to her motivating us we have climbed out of deep poverty.