One will never if they are in a safe or dangerous place, a woman recently posted online wondering if her actions of slapping an elderly man were wrong after she got slapped in the butt.
Here is her story:
I slapped an elderly man’s arm out of reflex after he slapped my butt in a store. Am I in the wrong here?
His slap wasn’t gentle, either. It startled me so badly that I smacked him instinctually, and I yelled “DON’T smack my butt! Don’t TOUCH ME!” I told him that being old doesn’t give him the right to slap anyone’s butt, and that it was technically assault. The man just stared at me in shock, and everyone in the vicinity just stood there silently. Nobody said word.
I was molested for the entirety of my childhood so this was small in comparison, but I struggle with self-hatred so much already and I’m so sick of this happening.
Here is what netizens think:
- Anyone who knew context would have been on your side. People freeze up in shock when there’s yelling and don’t tend to know what happened. Stay strong and I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself.
- I had a co-worker who was overtly touchy and he kept putting his hands on me, when I finally reached back and was physical with him it shocked him, myself and another coworker who was standing next to me. I felt embarrassment and wondered if i did wrong – always remember that advocating for yourself and boundaries isn’t always going to sit well with people, especially yourself. But be proud that you stood up for yourself and that you had that initial reaction to say something, it can be hard to find our voice. I’m proud of you and you absolutely did the right thing.
- Good job, too many chi ko pek out there.