My girlfriend got used to me paying for everything
There was a period of about 6 months when she was unemployed and of course i helped her out by paying for everything (from rent to groceries and vacations) and even giving her some money just for herself.
Meanwhile she got a good job and even though i was not going to ask for any money back she still feels like she doesn’t have to pay for anything.
I tried discussing with her about this but it always ends up with her crying and not talking to me for 2 days.
It doesn’t feel like a relationship between 2 adults, but more like me living with a teenager…
Not sure what to do so any advice would be appreciated
- She cries because you ask her to contribute like a normal, adult person? She’s scamming you. I’d put my foot down and ignore the tears. Either you are equal partners on the same team, or you’re out. It’s not just about the money, it’s about the willingness to prioritize the team and happiness of the both of you
- You’re not being held prisoner. Why do you stay in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t treat you respectfully, and cries when she’s called out on it?
- Woman here, don’t marry her. She will quit work and want to be a “kept” woman the minute you say “i do”.