I broke my boyfriend and I just want him back
Me(24F) and this guy(23M) have been dating for 3 months.
A few weeks ago he started talking about marriage, I told him “it’s too soon, I’m committed but we can’t be talking about this yet” and then he started talking about trying for a baby and I said the same thing to him.
Since then he’s been super distant. Doesn’t express his emotions anymore, doesn’t talk about the future, it’s like we’ve reverted back to the talking stage.
When I try to bring it up, he’s like “no I’m fine I don’t want to bother you”
I just want the sweet boy he was back
- THREEE MONTHS READ THAT WITH ME THREEEEEEEE MONTHS.
You’re not even living together and he wants marriage and kids.
Why would he go break his own heart, if you said no to marriage ….WHY WOULD HE ASK FOR KIDS
- I dunno my partner and I established in the first week that marriage and kids was something we both wanted down the line. We both wanted to because we both didn’t want to waste time getting into a relationship where that wasn’t the plan. Knowing what we both wanted has been really healthy for our relationship.
It’s fine to set boundaries about when you want to have certain types of discussions, but there is no one size fits all for deciding when these types of discussions occur.
- In less then 3 months and talking about marriage and kids and then icing because he doesn’t get what he wants? Quite a lot of red flags. Would be very wary of him, doesn’t sound like he is a sweet boy. In the early stages of love you do your best to show the best version of yourself and you only see the better points after a while you start seeing the real version and also notice the bad points. think you started seeing them already.