So I’ve spent about 2 years being single. 2018 was when I had my last relationship. 2019 I had some failed attempts at dating but was really too preoccupied with some turbulent times at my job and dealing with some family drama to even bother using a dating app. 2020 Covid happened and since it’s not going away anytime soon I’ve recently started to do the whole dating app thing. And I feel like I’ve kind of hit a brick wall.
It seems like one of 2 scenarios happens with most of the people I match with: The first is when I start talking to them and possibly go on a date with them and it becomes quickly apparent that there’s just nothing there. We quickly run out of things to talk about. We struggle to find common interests, or more awkwardly find that we have opposite taste/interests/hobbies. It’s possible that we may be still attracted to one another on a physical level but it becomes obvious that there’s no substance there.
The second scenario is that the person I match with do find a lot to talk about and find common interests, and have that more friendly connection but after meeting in person I find that I’m not attracted to them. I might still very much enjoy talking to them but in terms of their personality, mannerisms etc it just makes the relationship very platonic for me and I can’t really get past that. Usually I cease talking to them because I don’t want to lead someone on.
This gets frustrating after a while because it’s really not often that I meet someone that I can click with and connect both on a mental/emotional and physical level. Except for recently, I met someone [29M] who I really clicked with right off the bat. Long text message exchanges all day every day type of deal, for a couple weeks. We went on a date, it went great, hung out at his place afterwards, had a helluva lot of fun (no hook up, just a couple drinks and good conversation), made plans for another date a couple days later. Except when that day came, he texted me that morning to say that he isn’t interested in dating due to personal issues and apologized if he wasted my time. I was kind of dumbfounded to say the least so out of not knowing what to say I asked him if it was me or if I was weird or something and he said that he just wasn’t over quite his last relationship yet. Which, I get what that feels like. But at the same time, it bums me out.
I feel the COVID affects much more than people think, it has practically destroyed our lives.