I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, his son was 3 when I met him. He’s grown up around me, and he now lives with us full-time because his mother mistreats him.
Last night: I’m a 35 year old, overweight woman. I wear high-waisted long bike shorts and sports bras to bed, and it was our two year old’s bedtime when I was getting out of the shower.
Since I usually head to bed after the baby goes down, I came out in my sleepwear to pick the baby up and put him to bed.
My stepson and husband were chilling and my stepson, 13, asked if I was gonna do yoga. I’m literally more covered than if I wear a swimsuit, but my husband said this morning that I need to cover up around our son if he’s making comments.
I kind of bristled at the idea for a couple of reasons, one: I’m his stepmom, but I can’t wear the same clothes around him that I wear around the other kids and my husband in the house?
Two: it feels a bit like victim blaming when women are always told to cover up their bodies to “reduce distraction/temptation” for young men.
I do understand where he’s coming from. Our kid is 13 and hormonal, but I feel like if you make it inappropriate then that’s the real issue.
I don’t know, I’m probably overthinking this.
Netizen’s comments
The way you describe your outfit, it’s hardly inappropriate. The comment from your stepson wasn’t inappropriate either. I’d say your husband needs to get his mind out of the gutter.