My boyfriend and I are getting married next year and somehow I get the feeling that he isn’t as into the wedding as I am.
When we were looking for potential hotels, I went online and did a whole ton of research before narrowing down to a few options for my boyfriend to consider.
All he said was “You happy can already” and left the decision to me.
Same with the photoshoot. I asked him if he preferred studio shoot or outdoor and if he would like to go overseas to take our wedding photos. He just said “Whichever you prefer as long as it was within our budget”.
I know some of you might say that he is trying to be nice and let me choose the wedding I want but his attitude makes me feel more like he doesn’t care how this wedding goes?
Apart from the gown fitting which he did accompany me for, the hotel visit and liaising with vendors is solely done by myself. I work a 9-5 job so there are times when I feel very stressed out and overwhelmed by all this planning and when I tell my boyfriend, he will just ask me to relax and enjoy the process.
It’s easy for him to say this when the person doing all the work is me! He just needs to pay money and we’re splitting the cost between us so it’s not like he’s paying for the entire wedding.
Sometimes I feel so exhausted to the point that our wedding doesn’t even excite me anymore, which is honestly really scary? It’s just the wedding now.
After this we’re going to get a house, do Reno, have children… Is he going to tell me that everything is up to me too?
I’m really so tired of this one-man show…what should I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- Some guys just do not see the point of the hotel banquet. But some people may insist on the banquet as a form of tradition or respect. So cant blame if he is not really into it. Just try asking, you might be surprised at the answer.
- Women are like that, you give them power they say u no help. You help them they say you take over their respect. Women are like that, they like to get subjugated
- Why do we need to get stressed with weddings for what? To make ourselves happy or empress people.Wedding is just a day but staying married is another difficult challenge. Ask yourself maybe you nag so much to the point he doesn’t want to argue
- When guys say something, girls will usually say don’t want and give plenty of excuses and when guys say leave it up to you become equals to not interested. Why dont they ever admit they are just making life difficult?