I (23F) have been married to my husband (31M) for two years, It has always been the same problem and it came to my head this morning.
I woke up not feeling too well and leave the room to see him still gaming. Didn’t get much of a response when I called him since he had headphones on.
So I went back to the bedroom.
We have a dehumidifier in the house, whenever I go to sleep at night I empty it then, and again when I wake up.
It has been super humid so I have been waking up to water on the floor since it’s been overflowing.
So I ask my husband to empty it since he games till I wake up in the morning.
Not a big deal, right?
It’s the only chore I really /need/ done. No one likes water damage to their floors.
Well, once again it overflowed. It would not have been so bad if it were to empty it right away.
But it was not.
I got very angry and brought it up. He said it was an accident.
And I agreed accidents happen, but when it is your only chore.
I ended up raising my voice and getting angry. Bringing up everything I’m already doing. Which he responded by shutting down and heading to bed.
I do everything else, including financial planning.
I don’t want to always ask for everything I need, which feels reasonable.
My mental health has seriously worsened. To a point where I have had a lot of health checks. I have expressed multiple times that I don’t want to feel like a mother or helper.