My (35F) best friend (34F) got engaged at the end of last year and is getting married this year in November.
I was very excited for her until she told me that she wanted to have a destination wedding.
Once all is said and done with the cost of airfare, hotels, food, transportation, etc – the trip ends up costing me about $8,000 for myself and my spouse.
The cost of this same trip during other times of the year averages about $3-$4,000 however my bff is set on her wedding date and destination.
In my mind, it isn’t worth spending that much money but I had promised her I’d be at her wedding before I knew what she had chosen.
I told her it was too much money and now she’s upset with me because I’m saying that “our friendship isn’t worth it” and that as her bff, I’m not supporting her to make her dream wedding come true.
For context, for my wedding, she only had to pay for her shoes, which were about $75. I bought everything else including her bridesmaid dress.