For people using dating apps, what are the success rates/stories?
i personally myself(F23) have used dating apps(bumble/omi) for quite awhile and have gotten into a few relationships. most of them didn’t end well for me and most are looking for something casual.
just wanted to know everyones’ experiences on the app and if it’s really worth it anymore as i just got out of a toxic situationship from a guy i met on dating app and i am currently emotionally drained to even look for someone new to start all over again.
edit: tldr it ended bc he told me that he felt it was very hard to be seen and heard throughout our whole relationship and wanted me to have social cues whenever he’s upset without him telling me; he’ll have to independently solve his own issues instead and therefore promotes a lack of trust for me to take care of him lol
Netizens’ comments
- Take a break and reset your emotions before trying again. Usually apps like cmb and hinge have better quality of serious guys. Yes, there are a number of guys who are just looking for casual so it’s important to vet well. I find they tend to get touchy very quickly if they’re looking to hook up. Look at the kind of dates they bring you on and the way the conversation goes. I got burned before as well, so now I always ask “serious” questions by date 2 or 3 so I can more or less gauge how serious they are. I just met my boyfriend from hinge recently, so yes there’s hope.
- If you’re looking for something serious, try cmb. Higher quality guys too, that’s where I met my fiance in 2018 and this year we got the BTO! I think I’ve met and went on dates with 5-6 guys from the apps before meeting him, so it’s a bit of time and effort, need to read through their bios
Also 23 is still young, still have lots of time! - Met my then-gf in 2018 🙂 on CMB and we are currently married for abit over a year. Had been on CMB for a couple of years, but never really took the initiative to ask girls out as I was still studying back then and wanted to work then start to find a gf.
She was the first girl I asked out and likewise, I am the first guy she met too in real life as she had just started to try out dating apps. Funny-thing is, we are our both first’s partner as we have never been in a relationship before.
I only asked another girl out thereafter for a single date but didn’t find the connection as deep as my wife and as I continue to chase her eventually I succeeded and tada!
So yes, please continue to keep trying!