My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years, we live together and I love him so much, we have a great time together, we are constantly laughing and having fun.
But I have a higher S drive than him and it sometimes makes me sad.
We do it 2 maybe 3 times a month and recently I feel like he’s just trying to get it over with. Tonight i told him I was in the mood and I kept trying to kiss him. He was kissing me back but in a fooling around kind of way which wouldn’t allow me to get things more hot and heavy.
He also told me he wasn’t really in the mood. Eventually, after a while, he gave in but it made me feel like he was doing it because he felt bad. We ended up doing it, but he finished very quickly and I was noooo where near my finish.
He attempted to keep going for me but I was messy and uncomfortable with him finishing that I just told him to not worry about it. We got into a little bit of a heated discussion afterwards because he sensed that I was upset and it’s not that’s I’m upset with him personally, it’s just my love language is physical touch and it’s important to me that we have a healthy S life.
I rather have it everyday.
He also takes this very personally when I bring it up. This has been something that has come up here and there in the past. But I’m wondering what we can do to improve our lives.
We are very honest with each other and he knows how I feel but he just keeps apologizing and promising me that he’ll make it up to me. I just feel like he doesn’t have it in him all the time.
I’m just a little bummed.