I’m going to have an abortion because my (ex)fiancé cheated
I’m 29f and he’s 31m. We’ve been together for 7 years and engaged for 9 months.
Too keep a long story short, I found out my fiancé was cheating on me when I was about 10 weeks. He has slept with multiple women for what looks like at least the last two years. I never wanted children but he really wanted to be a father.
After the initial shock of finding out he was cheating, I had to think rationally. Could I really let myself be tied down to this man for the rest of my life? Could I trust him to raise a child with me? The answer was no. I gave him the best years of my life, and I wasn’t going to give him anymore. I knew I’d resent the child. I just wanted to move on and never see him again.
I told him I was going to get an abortion. He begged me not to. He apologised and said we could work it out and all he wants is to raise a family together. He swore I’d be a great mom and he’d be a great dad. He said even if we didn’t work out he’d be there 100% for the child and that he could be the one with full custody and I could have visitation.
I told him that my mind was made up and that he should’ve thought about that before cheating. He threatened to sue me if I went through with it.
My parents weren’t on board either. They say they’re pro-choice but think that me getting an abortion is purely for revenge and not “for the right reasons.” I don’t know. Maybe it is maybe it’s not. I can’t t have a child with this man. Not after this. I can’t do it. I can’t even carry the baby and give him full custody. Why should I put my body through that after what he did? Why would I give him what he wants after he’s ruined me?
It’s scheduled for next Friday. There’s not a doubt in my mind that this is what I should do. No one but my sisters and close friends seem to agree with me. My male friends are against it. My (ex)fiancé is still begging me not to and I know he’s speaking to a lawyer. The next week isn’t going to be easy but I’ll do what I have to. I gave this man the best years of my life. I gave him everything I had and everything I could.
For 7 years I’ve loved him unconditionally. I cannot have this child with him.