I am going to break up with my fiance because he didn’t shower for a week.
I’m (21F) going to break up with my fiance (22M) because he didn’t go to the shower for a week.
It all started from small things. We been together for almost 3 years. All this time I had to parent him, clean the house, cook him dinner, even when I come back from work and he is on his day off.
We split rent and all the other money stuff, but I do all the house work and its tiring. I asked him a lot of times to help me around the house or from time to time to cook dinner.
For a week its all golden, but then he comes back to his old ways.
He got used to his mother taking care of him all the time. The last drop of patience was, when I had to ask him to go to shower, because he stinks.
Now he is at his mom for a week, because I said that I need a break. I am tired of living with a child and I think that I don’t love him anymore or maybe I am just still angry.
I don’t know what to do anymore.
You can love someone and maintain some distance between you two. Unfortunately he is taking you for granted, treating you like Mommy v2. It’d be easier to break up now than to go through all the legalities of trying to get divorced down the road.
If you’re still contemplating about this relationship, it’s worth considering postponing the marriage. You do not need to get married “so soon”.
I personally wouldn’t marry a partner that doesnt contribute to the household and relationship, as that will build up resentment down the road.
I wish you all the best OP!