A woman shared how she was not the favoured child and went through a lot of drama growing up, and now the same thing is happening to her children and she wants to cut off all ties with her parents and sibling to protect her children.
Here is the story:
How do you deal with a toxic family?
I grew up in a family that practices favoritism and obviously, I am not the favored one.
As what we watched from dramas, the favored one usually grows up to be less capable and rely heavily on the family for support and help. This is the exact case that is happening in my family.
On the other hand, because of what I have been through, I became strong. I know to be positive, I should be thankful.
But what I have been through – physical, mental, there is no way I can be thankful to them for not letting me starve to death.
So now that I have my own family, I became super protective because I do not want the same abuse to happen to my children.
Unfortunately, things have started to unfold and we are going through the same cycle… This toxic family relies heavily on me to support them in terms of finances and all other family help like reading letters, paying bills, settling the internet, etc.
However, this did not stop them from being toxic to my children and my family. I am on the verge on saying goodbye to them forever and cutting all ties. But I worry they will not be able to cope…
We have had many family meetings to address these issues. But it always bounces back to the same state. It’s pointless to try anymore.
Now there are only 2 outcomes, accept and let my children be victims or break off all ties. I am more inclined to break all ties because I do not want my children to suffer.