Marriage isn’t working out
I’ve been married for 11 months now and I know my husband for 6 years.
Things aren’t working out and I don’t know what to do. We are on the verge of calling it quits. He works and drinks too much and there is no time for the relationship.
Yes we do go on holidays, movies, dates, but the spark is not there anymore and neither is any intimacy. We are just going on with the motions but there isn’t anything else. He doesn’t have the mental bandwidth because of his work. I don’t know how much more understanding to be when he has the audacity to blame me because the spark and feelings aren’t there. “Even on holiday there’s nothing between us” – huh? No effort and feelings can magically appear?
Is divorce the only way?
Tried suggesting marriage counselling but a) he doesn’t have time and b) his family mooted the idea so we just never went. Even trying to talk ends up in fights.
What to do? Is this the usual ‘just started living together, first 2 years are rocky’ fights? How do I know if I will ever get my relationship back or if this is the end? Planning on having a sit-down discussion with the families, or is this a bad idea?
I feel like I will be happier alone, and I do prefer it when he goes to work (I work from home) but it is very lonely.
Here are what netizens think:
- Marriage is kinship by choice, it is not always romance at all. If it is end of the road then do it on a nice note but remember why you choose to be with him in the first place. Don’t regret after choosing your decision.
- If he can’t even make time for counselling, it means that there’s no effort on his part to even want to salvage the relationship.
- This is why having an intelligent and humorous partner is important in a rs if you’re someone who is a bore. Some couples can do nothing for days but it’s still a place full of laughters