I’m leaving my fiancé because he’s fat and it’s just not attractive to me anymore
Hi all. I’m 26f and my bf is 30m. We started dating when I was 21. Planned to get married. Happy couple, blah blah blah.
But where it all goes downhill is when I started gaining weight. Happy weight that you gain when your in a relationship and super comfortable. I got to about 87kg, originally I weighed 53.
This bothered him immensely. He started telling me that I wasn’t attractive even when it was only a little weight gain. How he still wanted me but he wasn’t sure he could put up with me letting myself go. Said he was going to leave me.
If I’m being honest, he wasn’t exactly skinny himself. In fact, he weighed about 95kg when we first had this conversation. Like me, he had also gained while in a happy relationship. I didn’t think of that at the time though. I felt ashamed of myself. So I started going to the gym, making routines, eating a lot better.
All the while, he’s not making any effort to work out with me. I tried to convince him but he refused, always told me he was busy or wasn’t feeling well. Eventually I stopped asking. I got back down and now I’m 56!! Obviously he was happy that his fiancé was “attractive” again. Even agreed to pay for my tummy tuck from all the loose skin from my weight loss. Now that that is all said and done, he has still refused to lose weight.
I told him that I didn’t think we were compatible anymore. That I didn’t think I found him attractive, and we should go our separate ways. Obviously he’s angry. He keeps begging me to stay, throwing accusations at me that I just used him to get “hot again”. I just think I’ve realized that I want to be with someone that loves me no matter what, no matter the weight.
I still love him, but the relationship just seems like he wants me as his little doll that he can show off. Just not something I’m into.
Edit: Haha no where did I claim that all my weight was from “happy weight” yall. Please learn some comprehension 🙏. And even if I thought that way who cares? I’ve got a brand new body to enjoy, that I worked hard for. My old body is gone.
I’m not 95kg anymore. I’m now 56kg. I mentioned this in the post. I dropped the weight and got a tummy tuck. And no, I’m not paying him back. It was a gift 😉