Left my country for a better job opportunity less than a month ago, today I (24F) found out that my boyfriend (24M) is active in a dating app.
Hello everyone, I published here because I’m so shocked and need an outsider’s perspective on things.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend, D, for 4 years. It has been amazing, we had an excellent relationship, an excellent life and everything great overall.
We moved out together, this year since august I got a job offer overseas, that pays almost 5 times what I make now and see the world. Discussed it with my partner who was sad to let me go but supportive.
I left on October 25th, and just now someone told me that he was in a dating app. I asked him upfront about it and he said that he was feeling lonely and bored but didn’t mean to hook up with anyone, just talk.
Before I left I offered him the opportunity to open the relationship in the meantime so he can fulfil his needs as long as he keeps it honest, but denied that saying that he would be too busy to cheat.
What is killing me is the lack of honesty on his part and the fact that I offered an arrangement, and that it has not been even a month since I left and this is already happening.
Also, a dating app? stupid. I am afraid that by leaving he will be left in a vulnerable situation, I send money home, and also our group of friends will resent him if they knew, and also the furniture that we have is on my name, everything is on my name even the cat, so I would mess him up by leaving him. Any advise?