So my father turns 65 later this year and is planning to retire, for a birthday/retirement gift my wife and I have decided to take him on a 12 day vacation to Greece. The trip is a 7 day tour of the country and a 5 day cruise of the islands. My dad has always wanted to know to Greece because that is where his family is from, but he could never afford it. My wife and I are in good shape finically and can afford it no people.
The thought never crossed my mind to invite my stepmother, I kind of forget she even exist. I have not seen her since I was 19, I am in my 40s now. She just chose not to attend any family functions on my dads side, when I got married, she did not come, when my grandparents died she did not go to the funeral.
So after I gave everything to my dad I got a text from a family friend a day or so later. saying that I’m a bad person for not inviting her and that they have been married for over 25 years and I should treat her better.
So am I a bad person for not inviting her?
people asked why she did not get along with my grandparents.
The family legend is she and my grandmother did not get along. I guess she showed up Drunk to Christmas when they first started dating and got in an argument because my grandmother got my presents for me, than her kids. She may have also peed on their couch while drunk.