A woman who married twice weighs in her opinion on how man changed after getting married. The woman stated that her ex-husband had an unstable career and was not interested in advancing his career and finally ended up in divorce.
The man in the next marriage eventually became the same.
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Hopefully, my story can allow you to reflect and understand the situation better. I have two children from a prior marriage.
My ex-husband was a man child while we stayed with his parents. I’m the one who cares about striving to earn a higher income and taking care of children needs while he quitted his job and became in and out of job over the years.
He was not interested in trying to earn more money, more importantly not interested in self-improvement of any kind and taking care of the children unless being peristently asked to. When we divorced, one child followed my ex-husband while the other child followed me.
A few years later, I met someone attractive (in a personality way): he likes to exercise, is family-oriented and has a stable job. He accepted me, my child and my past, and we got married. After marriage, he changed gradually even as we have our third child: not interested in exercising and maintaining his weight (especially shortly after our wedding ceremony), less interested in interacting with our children and have little interest to ask for higher pay in his job or switch jobs to achieve higher pay.
These changes are minimal (except his disinterest to maintain his weight haha), as he still takes care of our children but this is a fraction of the time he spends on the screen. Regarding finance, we had a joint account (I still have a separate personal account but he doesn’t) and he said I can invest the money in joint account if I want to, otherwise we will leave in bank account. Besides occasional squabbles, I have not regretted being with him.
Now back to my ex-husband. Since the divorce, he has not quit his job and he becomes interested in personal finance and how to grow his money. He cares a lot now more about taking care of our tween child compared to the past which he left his parents or me to take care of. I’m happy to see that he has matured and my child is in better hands.