My bf and I have been together for close to 2 years. Today, he suggested that we apply for the May BTO launch. We have already tried for the Feb one this year but didn’t manage to get a number.
I felt a bit mixed if I am ready to apply for a BTO with him. If successful, we would be able to get the house in around 3 years, which means we have to ROM by then. I am having concerns because I felt that us being together for only close to 2 years might not be a good gauge to determine if we are really compatible? Or am I thinking too much?
Honestly, he treats me well and gives me a lot of security. He would constantly auto update me of his whereabouts, small things in his life and always initiate reflective/ feedback sessions in our relationship. However, some concerns I have are the time frame that we have been together. We clique really well and I feel there is really quite a lot of compromise between us in this relationship. We met online and although he did tell me about his past briefly, but I am still not sure if this 2 years are sufficient for me to fully know him as a person and to determine that I can spend my future with him.
We do talk about what we would be like in the future, but I am unsure if that can be a reality or just our dreams. Also, he does not really have a goal in life, like his current job is not really something he likes and he does not really have interest in any industry. Additionally, I feel that the way we spend money is really different, like he is ok with going to restaurants, eating a set for $15 while I don’t really feel comfortable doing these and prefer my hawker food, although he is also fine with hawker food.
I am not sure if the way we spend money will be a hindrance to our future finances. Any souls out there who have had similar experiences can give some insights here for me? Thanks a lot in advance!
Here are what netizens think:
- I with my ex 5 years get married another 3 years also divorce. Time is nothing
- You are not sure about everything…..Are you sure that guy you are talking about is your bf?
- It’s seems like you have many doubts in this relationship. Did you really speak about it with your bf? I guess you haven. You should clear all of it before you make the right moves.
- Even if you have 10 years to know him, human changes in every phase of their life, every age and environment change them. Even if you think you get a guy modelled after your dad also useless, cause human change.Change is forever.