A netizen shared how her relative is being passive-aggressive and keeps putting toxic thoughts in her, such as asking if her boyfriend (now husband) is cheating on her.
Here is the story:
“How to best handle an annoying relative?
I have this Auntie who started her nonsense when I was still dating. Put in toxic thoughts in me, ie. Asking if my then-bf was cheating when I told her that he’s busy.
Kept asking me to get married even though my then-bf haven’t propose as he was poor & just started working. She knew but obviously don’t care.
Fast forward I got married, had a child. 6mths after giving birth, at our family dinner gathering in the mall, she touched my mummy tummy (slightly bulging belly) in front of everyone and commented that my tummy is big.
1 year later, she nagged at me every single time she saw me to have a 2nd child. Even when my husband was present, she would say it to me only.
We had our plans but couldn’t tell her as she doesn’t try to listen and understand. So my ears had to suffer for years.
And when we finally had our 2nd child (and opposite gender), I thought she will stop. (I am fine with any gender as long as baby is healthy.
But knowing her, she would definitely say something like ‘Try for a girl…a girl is ‘better’) And now she starts to nag at me to have a 3rd child every time we meet.
Hits back
Then at a mutual relative’s wedding, she touched my mummy tummy again and in front of everyone, laughed at me again.
I was angry, my instant reaction was to touch her tummy back & pointing out that I have 2 children while she had only 1. (Not my best behavior but I felt she needed a mirror)
Her biological child was single and didn’t have any children yet. So why focus on me? I can handle her naggings (pretending to be deaf or pregnant with 3rd child) but I can’t handle the unexpected touch-tummy-and-jeer as politely.
Definitely avoiding her as much as possible but I can’t run away forever. Luckily my mother-in-law is not like her.”
Editor’s note: Just call her out in front of everyone.