my family sat around in a circle and discussed how sad it is i’m single
i’m 26F and never had a boyfriend. I always feel compelled to give a reason why but the truth is I don’t know. it just never worked out for me. It really is one of my biggest insecurities.
So to add on, as part of my culture, and this culture really emphasizes getting married and if you’re not married by 30, people look down on you and treat you like you’re a freak show.
During this conversation, my aunt said “i’m giving you one year to find a boyfriend” in front of our extended family. i felt so mortified and embarrassed.
and so i asked her, “why is it ok for you to say that to me? it’s like if i told you ‘you have one year to lose weight.’” She said nothing in response.
To me this is beyond rude behavior, but now i just have this conversation stuck in my head every time i’m upset.
like how pathetic am i that my entire family literally gathers around and discusses what’s wrong with me? Then they go on to say my brother will have no problem because he’s so good looking.
i feel so bad about myself.
then after this conversation ended and they moved onto the next one, they kept looking back at me and saying “it’s ok it’s ok you’ll figure it out” but the only thing i’m trying to figure out is how to ban these people from my life.
i am on a solo trip overseas right now, and instead of asking how i am when she called, my mom asked “did you find a boyfriend yet” and then laughed.
And so i hung up on her and i’m not sorry at all.