A woman shared how her fiance laughed at her face when she was trying on lingerie for him in bed.
Here is the story
Fiancé laughed in my face when I wore lingerie, then told me it was stupid.
We were on a perfect vacation with my fiancé of 6 years (been together 10). Our intimacye is relatively dull, which is on both of us, however we were on a pretty good run this trip.
We came back from a nice dinner, few cocktails deep. I took a shower and literally shaved every inch of my body and was about to throw on my normal shorts/tank for bed. Instead I grabbed a piece of lingerie I brought (I’ve maybe worn lingerie a couple times for him and he’s never seemed crazy into it, but at least we would have gotten intimate and act impressed with the gesture, etc) lingerie tends to make me feel a little more confident. Sometimes I feel like a little boy and have insecurities around that, which he is very well aware of. Lingerie at least makes me feel a little more womanly.
Anyways. I walk around the corner and he literally just starts laughing in my face. I go over to the bed and try to keep the mood going and ask why are you laughing? He proceeds to tell me “lingerie is stupid and he doesn’t like it”…
I’ve never felt worse in my life. I took it immediately off and put my shorts and tank back on.
Frankly at this point I’m almost stunned for being ridiculed.
Fast forward I roll away and cry myself to sleep.
Next morning, I still can’t shake it. I’m crying in the shower and he hears. We try to talk, I explain the lingerie makes me feel a little more womanly because of my boyish body… he just continues on that I look better without anything on (which I appreciated), but no matter how I said it he would not acknowledge what he did was very hurtful and why lingerie may make me feel good.
I keep getting spells of just wanting to cry. I feel so aweful about myself, I threw all the lingerie in the trash and just told him I needed some time alone at the pool.
Am I being crazy for feeling this defeated? I feel so unheard and I also feel like any other guy on the planet would have been appreciative and at least tried to make me feel better after laughing in my face.