A woman shared how her mother-in-law found out that her husband just got a vasectomy.
Here is the story
I 27F and husband 28M have been together for over 10 years now and have two beautiful children together. He and I decided before we even got married that we only ever envisioned us having 2 kids.
After our 2nd baby was born we both knew in our hearts that our family was complete. We had the discussion and mutually decided on him getting a vasectomy.
I did offer going on a long term birth control, but he knows that my body gets all sorts of wonky on hormonal birth control and said he was perfectly fine getting the vasectomy.
He had it done and recovered easily, as well as passing his post-op exams with flying colors if you will. My parents knew about it because they were watching our children while we were at the appointment. His parents didn’t. He said he didn’t want them to know because he was embarrassed about his mom and dad knowing his ‘personal’ business. Okay, no biggie!
So his sister just had a baby and we offered pretty much everything our kids grew out of that would be helpful to their growing family. When SIL asked if we were 100% sure I responded “yes we are absolutely done having kids” and she asked if he had gotten a vasectomy. Thinking we could trust her with that information we said yes. Well. That tidbit got back to MIL and she was not happy. She always pictured having loads of grandkids. Like she told him years ago that she wants at least 8. IDK where the other 6 kiddos are going to come from, but we are DONE. He has siblings that can just as easily reproduce. MIL is now blaming me for tricking her son into the vasectomy.
Why does MIL even care about what is going on within our marriage? Also, I did no such trickery. It was him who suggested the vasectomy and made the appointments. The man is stubborn as a mule so there was no freaking way I could force him into anything. I could barely convince him to cut his hair shorter for our wedding. If he was that stubborn about his hair, why would he suddenly be a doormat for a good ole snippity snip?
Now I’m frustrated. We didn’t necessarily tell SIL to keep it a secret so that is on us. We also didn’t think she’d share that sort of news given it’s a bit more personal. MIL probably pried on why we were giving her all our old stuff. I don’t know exactly where I’m going with this ramble. I just needed to get it out there because surely someone else has been in this situation too.