My (26F) husband (26M) spent 18K on adult videos
I (26F) married my husband (26M) last year after dating for 4.5 years. I found out 3 weeks ago about his AV addiction.
I didn’t realize he was spending money on it nor how much he was looking at it. It was various sites such as onlyfans etc.
So far the total is around $18K from the bank statements I could see. He deleted all the accounts so I can’t tell if he messaged them but he’s says he only viewed pictures and videos.
I’m not sure what to do. He’s been lying to my face for 4.5 years and I’ve definitely mentioned in the past not being okay with paying to watch these videos.
He’s going to therapy and gave me control of his all credit cards but I feel like our entire relationship has been a lie. I just don’t understand how he could marry me and not tell me.
I feel taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to heal from this.
Netizens’ comments
- EIGHTEEN??? Bruh…
- He was spending 11 dollars per day at that rate. He was definitely watching cams and tipping at that rate. I can’t imagine how one could spend that much otherwise.
- At a minimum, you should consult with a lawyer on how to separate your finances and possibly enter into a postnuptial agreement while you figure out whether you’re staying or going.
You should also pull a credit report for yourself and your husband to make sure he isn’t hiding any credit cards or opened one in your name for this addiction.
You’re the only one who can decide if you can come back from this. Give yourself some time to absorb what you have learned before making any final decisions. For now, protect yourself and collect information. - $18k? But there’s so many videos out there on the internet that are FREE, is your husband a moron?