A woman shared how her mother in law has never liked her since the day she met her husband, and her mother in law even scolded her father.
Here is the story:
“Warning for long post ahead. But really want to hear the different views out there:
Husband and I have an estranged relationship with mil and sil.
From the day i know my husband, sil and mil has never been happy with me. Making things difficult for me, even wanting me to pay for my own share ( i don eat much, sil is the one who ate alot and order alot) when we were out celebrating one of their family member birthday. Mil even dictate wad time hubs needs to be back home when we were dating( hubs was almost 30 yrs old btw). Even putting the blame on me when hubs is home late, fyi, hubs was really working till 1-2 am but mil being paranoid does not believe him.
Long story short, i felt that she was behaving like a jealous gf in our relationship. At the start i tried to give in to her and buy gifts to make her happy- the last straw came when she had to curse my dad.
From that moment there was really alot of tension, to the point that I wanted to break off with hubs because i could no longer stand the toxicity in his family. Hubs is a nice guy, although i need to admit that he is not a good mediator between me and mil, he held on to our relationship and make it work and try to please his mother. But no matter wad he did, she always say nasty things to him
Fast fwd to now we are finally married and have establish a healthy boundary between us and mil, she still likes to black mail him emotionally on and off.
I really can no longer stand it. Like why cant mil see the damage that she has done to the family? Why must she behave like we owe her everything? From what i know sil has not been giving mil any form of monetary support at all. Until like few years ago start to buy toilet paper and detergent in bulk. Mil was super delighted. Whereas hubs was giving quite a substantial part of his salary she is still not happy or even discount wad he was doing?
Doesn a mother know that she has make her own son disappointed instead of pushing the blame to the dil all the time for snatching away the son? Fyi, mil keep badmouthing sil infront of us and i believe she is doing the same to hubs too by badmouthing hubs infront of sil. Why does a parent want to create tension between both her children?
Although sil is really quite horrible towards me, but sometimes i pity her. Until now, she still think she is right not not giving money to her mother, she still think she is right by screaming at her mother. To her filial piety is dead. Mil evrr complaint that sil has brought left over food( touched by others) back for them to eat so that her money spend on treating others is not wasted. Seriously? Really?
She even does not hesitate to humiliate her own mother infront of her bf.
Seriously guys, what would u all have done? Cos honestly no matter wad hubs did is always wrong. And sil was obviously the one creating hell for mil, but mil is scared of quarreling with her so anything when she is not happy, she vents on hub.
Give up on mil and walk away?
Let her and sil thrash it out?
But both hubs and i are determine not to let her toxicity ruin our future generation. Toxicity ends with them.”
Editor’s note: I guess just cut them off since they are so toxic