my mum pulled my pants down today and thinks it’s funny
For context, I never had a really good relationship with my mum. I love her, but I don’t really feel comfortable around her and I don’t think I would like her if we weren’t related.
She often does stuff that kind of crosses a line. For example I’m not really comfortable with physical contact. It’s very fast too much for me but my mum always wants to cuddle and when I was younger she even forced me to cuddle with her.
It’s not just with her it took me a long time to cuddle with my boyfriend but I think it is easier for me because he doesn’t force me or he just makes me feel way more comfortable.
A year ago I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that much physical contact and told her I’d rather come to her if I want to cuddle or comfort, if she is fine with that.
She seemed really disappointed and didn’t say anything until a few weeks later when she told me that I will probably regret that when I’m older and that I hurt her feelings very much. I don’t quiet understand how but fine.
Today I was sitting in the living room and talking with her until I wanted to go back to my room. She was sitting on the sofa and our dog laid over her legs. So I first went to pet it.
As I’m petting my dog she pulls my pants down and laughs. It was super uncomfortable. I felt really ashamed even if it was only me and her and my sister in the kitchen.
Maybe I’m overreacting but I’m a grown woman and I don’t think anyone should just randomly pull my pants down without my permission.
I then told her that that’s why I don’t spend much time with her and she responded that it doesn’t matter because I already spent little time with her. I’m so confused. She still thought it was funny after I told her that.
I don’t know how our relationship can get any better if she does stuff like this.