Mum kept asking me to find a partner and have baby. How?
My mum, aunt and grandma wants me to start looking for a boyfriend (hopefully can be a lifelong partner). They are worried that I’m going to be alone without a child and husband after they all passed away in the future…
I wonder how people find their partner. I have male friends for more than 10 years, but we are like just normal friends. Hmmm… Also very weird to imagine the friendship to develop into romantic relationship as we know each other for very long
Other than this, I feel that guys generally are not interested to get married (as in they will lose their freedom and social life once the first kid is out etc). My female friends are on dating app, but the guys there mostly are looking for physical relationship only
Netizens’ comments
- Firstly regarding nagging learn to either tune out or establish boundaries. The nagging will never stop so don’t even try to live your life according to the nagging or feel stress out by it.
Second don’t go looking at your 10+ year male friends just because your want a boyfriend because your mum wants you to. Don’t jeopardise your friendships. These long friendships are hard to come by. Of course if it happens that you like them and they like you sure but not like try to get together with them just because mum says you need a boyfriend.
Yes dating app alot of horror stories but there’s also plenty of good people. I met my husband on there!
Also, please all parents lose their freedom when they have kids. It’s not an exclusive to men thing. Don’t talk like all women want marriage and men don’t. It’s 2023. Women are not trying to tie unwilling men down . You can choose to remain single if you want!
I would say focus on yourself. Your goals your dreams your hobbies. Expand your social circle, make friends. Don’t need to shun dating apps and one day love will come and even if it doesn’t it’s fine. - People find theirs in JC or Uni. You’re too late. Now u can only find in ur company, dating app, or friends recommend